Why does Sex Hurt?

A Word From O.N.A

She sat across from me and said: 'I think something is wrong with me.'

She had been married for three months. Every time her husband tried to be intimate with her, the pain was so severe he had to stop. She had started to believe her body was defective. That she was not built for marriage. That she was the problem. The husband told me later on that he actually thought it was a spiritual problem. Ah!

In seven plus years of practice as a sex therapist, painful sex is one of the most common reasons couples reach me. And in almost every single case, the woman has spent months — sometimes years — suffering in silence, convinced that something is fundamentally abnormal about her.

Pain during sex is not normal. It is not your fault. And in most cases — it is completely fixable.

This ebook is for every woman who has gritted her teeth and endured. For every husband who does not understand why she pulls away. For every couple that has let this go unaddressed for too long.

Read it together. Or read it alone and pass it on. Either way — do something with it.

— O.N.A

Lead Sex Therapist, Intimacy and Sexuality in Marriages