The A-Z of a successful marriage and relationship

THE A-Z OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.

Author by 

MR IGBUDU KELLY OGHENEMARO 

ADORE each other……………………………………………………………… 1

Take BOLD steps in your relationship…………………………………. 1

CARE for each other……………………………………….………………….. 1

DEDICATION in marriage……………………………………………………. 1

ENJOY not endure……………………………………..……………………….. 2

Be best FRIENDS to one another…………………………………………. 2

GOD. Put GOD first in your relationship…………………………….. 2

H. HONESTY…………………………………………………………………………… 2

INSPIRE each other………………..………………………………………….. 2

Be JOYOUS always……………………………………………………………… 3

Be KIND to each other………………………………………………………. 3

LOVE unconditionally……………………………………………………….. 3

Be MEEK (humility)…………………………………………………………. 3

Be NAUGHTY to your spouse in a good way……………………. 3-4

Be OPEN minded towards your spouse…………………………… 4

PRIDE (don't be proud to your spouse)……………………………. 4

Don't QUENCH your love for each other…………………......... 4

RESPECT each other's opinion…………………………………………. 4

Be SUBMISSIVE to your husband woman ( husband's learn to say sorry) 5

Be TEACHABLE in your relationship…………………………………. 5

Don't be UNPROFESSIONAL……………………………………………. 5

Don't be VIOLENT against your spouse…………………………… 5

Be WISE in everything you do………………………………………… 5

Be seXy to your spouse Everytime…………………………………… 6

Be YOUTHFUL to your spouse always……………………………… 6

Always be ZION cautious (Heaven cautious……………………. 6

CHAPTER 1

ADORE EACHOTHER

You need to adore each other for your relationship or marriage to work, it is not hard or it won’t take anything from you to tell your spouse “you are beautiful or handsome” in the morning before going to the office and after coming back from work on daily basis, that will make their day a better day. Your spouse will be saying in his or her mind that my soulmate told me I am pretty or handsome, and no matter what people say outside won’t matter to them, this will eventually strengthen your marriage or relationship.

 TAKE BOLD STEPS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

You must take a bold step in your relationship, for you to be compatible you have to ask questions about your spouse before going ahead for marriage. Some people are very shy when it comes to taking bold steps it sometimes affect the relationship cos you didn’t enquire before going into marriage, you must ask questions before asking your spouse to marry you.

CARE FOR EACH OTHER

After taking bold steps and marrying your spouse, the next step is to care for one another what ever the other person is going through, you have to show concern and as a man and head of the home, you must care for your family especially when the kids starts to arrive.

DEDICATION IN MARRIAGE

You must be dedicated to your marriage, be there whenever you are needed, dedicate your time, energy and resources to your marriage. Most men feel that when they are married it’s work, work and more work in order to fend for the family, as a couple you have to balance the equation, at least when you are not working, you can go for outing or family vacations or picnic with your family isn’t a bad idea, it will bring that family Bond and it is healthy for your marriage.

CHAPTER 2

ENJOY NOT ENDURE

This is the best aspect of your marriage “ENJOY NOT ENDURE”, lots of people or couples endure their marriage instead of enjoying it, that’s where asking questions about your spouse comes to play before driving into the union called marriage. Some men or women are sheep in wolves clothing they pretend a lot and when you get into the marriage they change their character and turn the women to a punching bag. It is very bad to say both of you attend same church and that he will not do that, “someone sleeping in the garage doesn’t mean such person is a car” so try as much as possible to enjoy your marriage and not endure it.

BE BEST FRIENDS WITH EACHOTHER

I always tell couples, that before love can flow in the marriage or relationship, you need to first be best friends cos later in life that love you shared will depreciate, but the friendship you shared will still be there and it will make your marriage blossom at the latter stage. For example both of you can be discuss partners or gossip partners as the case may be or play games together like ludo, ayó, card games or even computer games. What you can’t tell others outside, you can tell your partner, let the closeness be there always. Call each other all the time even if you are busy make out time to call EACHOTHER to know how their day went and sometimes crack some jokes to each other.

GOD (PUT GOD FIRST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP)

This is the number one thing to do in your marriage or relationship. For your relationship or marriage to work always put God at the helm of affairs in your home, always pray for Gods direction in your relationship or marriage, always make sure your family has a personal relationship with God.

HONESTY

For a relationship to work well both couples needs to be honest to one another. Both of you needs to be truthful with each other, when you lie about something from the beginning, you need more lies to cover the previous lie and it’s not healthy for a relationship or marriage. Always speak the truth about yourself and your background from the beginning, who ever want to marry you, will marry you no matter your background. In other words make sure you speak the truth always and stand by the truth anytime any day.

INSPIRE EACHOTHER

You must be an inspiration to EACHOTHER in everything you do, what ever your spouse want to in life you must show support and must make sure you encourage your spouse at all times not just the spouse alone but to the kids as well this will help the marriage very well. 

    CHAPTER 3

BE JOYUOS ALWAYS

In marriage or relationship, both couples need to be joyous always for each other. When your spouse attain a certain height in career, the couple need to be happy for one another, and the height that each person attain, should not affect or destroy the relationship or marriage. Don’t say “I am too busy” when you are not, always make out time to spend quality family time with each other. This is essential for your marriage to work.

BE KIND TO EACHOTHER

Always be kind to one another, speak kind words to EACHOTHER, show kindness not just to your spouse, buy to people, neighbors around you. An act of kindness will speak for you in the future, not just to you, but to your children in future. Let me drop this quote: kindness is a seed when planted and watered, brings forth fruits and much fruits than the seed you planted.

LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY

You must always love your spouse unconditionally, no matter what happens in you marital journey, you must love your spouse unconditionally. Love your spouse as Christ loves the church that he died for us. This will help you in your marriage.

BE MEEK (HUMILITY)

You must be humble to EACHOTHER in your marriage or relationship. This meekness goes to both man and woman, but especially to the woman folks, always be humble to your husband because he is the head of the family and even God acknowledge the fact that man is the head of the family. So humility is the key to soften the heart of your husband to do anything for you.

BE NAUGHTY TO YOUR SPOUSE IN A GOOD MANNER

Be naughty in this aspect isn’t to start insulting your spouse; be naughty in this aspect means that you should play raw to your spouse, for example most African women tie wrapper on their chest in their homes, which is to me totally not ideal. Girls outside are very smart and they all dress to impress or better still “dress to kill”. For a woman to keep her man, she needs to go naughty. For example if you want to sleep at night, wear a very transparent nighty without bra or panties or wear a jeestring panties, or if you are the type that feels hot at night cos of the nighty, you can strip naked and go bare without bra or panties and also without the nighty.

At day time inside the house wear a short and a crop top. When you do all this your husband will always rush home from work after the close of day. So in a nut shell be naughty to your husband 

CHAPTER 4

men are moved by what they see, while women are moved by what they hear and feel. Men always say good words to your wife that will put her in the mood for more.

BE OPRN MINDED TO EACH OTHER

Be open minded in your relationship or marriage, to be open minded in a relationship or marriage is willing to consider new ideas for your marriage to work, you have to consider new ideas, you have to be unbiased, open minded also means you have to consider you spouse opinion that are new or different to your own opinion. This will help in your marriage.

PRIDE

This is the first thing that kills a relationship or marriage, don’t be proud to your spouse, when you are a proud person it brings the relationship down. Proud goes before a fall. Prov 28v25, eccl 7v8, jer 50v32, 1peter 5v5. God hates proud people.

DON’T QUENCH YOUR LOVE FOR EACHOTHER

Don’t make your marriage a boredom to each other, always spark the fire in the relationship, don’t let the fire go down for any reason. If you can’t take your spouse out, play video games together, talk about something in the news together, always make your spouse your greatest confidant. If the man loves watching football, try and learn one or two about football, and always support his favorite teams, watch football with him too.

    And for the men, if you feel that your wife loves movie especially telenovelas, try and know one or  two of the telenovelas she likes and always try and watch with her as well. It helps in igniting the fire in  the relationship or marriage.

RESPECT EACH OTHERS OPINION

Always respect each others opinion in the marriage both spouse can put heads together in other to know how to take the family forward. Each opinion needs to be weighed before taking a decision, don’t wave off any decision because it might help in the future. In other words everybody’s opinion is important. Both couples opinion is very important for the relationship to move forward.

CHAPTER 5

SUBMISSION TO YOUR HUSBAND

This aspect is to the women folks, always submit to your husband because he is the head of the home and God has placed him in charge over the woman and the affairs of the family. No matter the status of the man, be submissive to him always. Submission comes before love in the Bible. Eph 5v22-25, when you submit first, love comes naturally, cos submission before love.

BE TEACHABLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

You must be reachable in your relationship at all times, because no one is an island of his own. If you spouse don’t know how to speak fluently, you can teach him or her. If your spouse can’t cook and you love her so much, you can teach her too, or employ someone to teach her on your behalf. Always be open to learn new things in your relationship or marriage. If you like a particular style in sex, you can teach each other and practice it together. It helps to bond the relationship.

DON’T BE UNPROFESSIONAL

In every thing you do try to be professional don’t lack behind, if you have a business or a profession be the best at it, and always make sure you learn more. If you know how to cook, be good at it, if you like sex also be good at it too. So try to be good at anything you do.

DON’T BE VIOLENT AGAINST YOUR SPOUSE

Please and please this is very serious in relationship or marriage don’t be violent to your spouse when you hit your spouse, you hit yourself too. This violent is mostly popular in Africa. Violent tears the home apart, and most times the children are traumatized and affected because most times this type of marriage ends up in separation and sometimes DEATH. So this is a very bad and serious issue to tackle in most African homes.

BE WISE IN EVERYTHING YOU DO

Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove. In everything you do in life you have to be wise to tackle situations in your marriage or relationship. Not everything you must speak or reply, if your husband is discussing with you as a woman be quiet and listen. You must be gentle in speaking to your husband, I call it “bedroom voice”. Whenever you want to speak to your spouse use BEDROOM VOICE (gentle voice) or calm voice. This melts your husband’s heart quickly and faster too .

CHAPTER 6

BE SEXY TO YOUR SPOUSE AT ALL TIMES

Pls always look sexy and sharp to your husband at all times, for you to keep your man always look very HOT for your man. Lot of women are busy taking care of the husband and kids, when was the last time you took care of yourself? Some women will say “ I am too old for this” or “ I am married already” you are wrong, you need to look good for your man always. Because girls outside are ready to steal your man because of their dressing. So before they take your man always look sharp and sexy for him.

BE YOUTHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE

Always be youthful to your spouse, make sure you dress smart like a youth always, behave like a youth, don’t be sluggish in your activities. Sometimes you can carry your spouse on your back when you are together or strip her off her feet when she comes from work, or buy your spouse a surprise gift.

    BE ZION CAUTIOUS (BE HEAVEN CAUTIOUS)     

In all of this you must be Zion cautious in everything you do in you relationship or marriage. This is the key for you to love your spouse more, because when you are heaven cautious you will make all this your watch ward. Because heaven is real and hell is also real.

This are the A-Z for you to have a blissful and successful marriage.

May God Almighty bless you for reading and learning one or two about how to have a peaceful and blissful marriage.

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to God Almighty for giving me the wisdom to accomplish this book

To my lovely spouse MRS IGBUDU PRAISE EJIROGHENE for the support and love you showed me towards the accomplishment of this book.

And to my family and colleagues for been there for me and also supportive to accomplishing this book

GOD BLESS YOU ALL FOR TAKING OUT TIME TO READ THIS BOOK, THANKS.

AUTHORED BY MR IGBUDU KELLY